Today, on Lynette Long's blog, she posted a terrible story about violence against women. I am utterly aghast. And I am also totally certain that this is the upshot of allowing the widespread voicing of misogyny, of violent imagery being used against women, and of sexism and bullying being used to bludgeon one's way into the White House. THIS is what Obama has wrought. I hope someone is keeping an eye on the domestic violence, rape, and assaults against women stats. I'd bet anything they're on their way up.
"THE WAR OF THE SEXES
by Lynette Long
Last night I met three friends for dinner at a popular local restaurant. When I arrived my friends were already there. One was sitting at the corner of a packed bar while the other two were standing behind her. Beside them three guys would not release two seats they were saving "for friends" for at lease 30 minutes. When I arrived, one of my friends eager to find me a seat, tried to take one of the seats held by the guys, saying she would be happy to return the seat once his friends arrive. He pulled the seat back and yelled, "You are just a bunch of C****." What??? Haven't we seen that word emerge during the very recent Presidential Campaign? I was flabbergasted. I have never in my life heard a woman called the C word. Ouch.
The women asked the bartender to take charge and ask the guys to give up one of the seats he as saving. The bartender would not intervene. His response was a cold, "His friend is parking the car."
The second of the four of us was infuriated and went and had a long talk with the manager. I could not hear what she said, but the manager sheepishly asked one of the guys for a stool. No, again. Frustrated the women who had spoken to the manager, poured a glass of water on the head of the most aggressive of the guys. He turned around, grabbed her my the hair with his left had, pulled her down, and dragged her across the restaurant floor while punching her in the face with his right hand. Three patrons pulled him off.
As I watched, it all seemed so surreal. I had enough of my wits about me call the police as soon as the fight started. As we waited for the police to arrive, the three guys took off angry and triumphant. I followed them for a couple of blocks hoping they would slip in to one of the many restaurants around the corner, which they did not.
When the police came we stepped outside to explain what happened. When the woman who was assaulted told the police they called us a C****, he said, "That's a part of a horse." When she showed him her broken glasses and bruised face, he said, "You started the fight." Something is not right here, a woman's been pummeled in the face and you tell me it's her fault. Disgusted, we left, found another restaurant and had dinner.
This morning I called a lawyer who is an expert in these matters. After reviewing the facts her response was calling a woman a C**** is not a hate crime, throwing water on someone is considered an assault, and you're lucky the guys left or your friend who was pummeled would have been arrested.
What's my take the morning after? I have never witnessed such hostility from relatively sober men in an upscale restaurant. I understand my friend's frustration at not being able to get the manager, the bartender, or anyone to defend her after we were called C****. We are a group of women, too old to trade on our sexuality, and too young to garner the deference given a senior citizen. We also didn't understand our place. We had the audacity to repeatedly ask for a chair hogged by men. Did my friend cross the line by pouring a drink on someone's head? Of course. Did she deserve to be dragged by the hair and pummeled in the face? Of course not. The intensity of his response was unconscionable.
I think we cannot dismiss the election's place in all this. The world watched as Hillary Clinton and Sara Palin were eviscerated by the main stream media. Calling women C**** was tolerated. Demeaning and disrespecting women was deemed OK. A young potent male was victorious over an older women. It was a symbolic victory on many deep psychological levels. I am afraid last night was just the beginning and that there will be more crimes against women. Times have changed and not for the better. I can smell it in the air."